ABOUT THE TITLE
Drawing from his long and extensive personal and professional experiences and writing in an easily understandable and at times anecdotal style, the author avoids psychological jargon as much as possible. The material is presented independent to pathology and is organized into two parts:
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction . . . . . . . 1
Section I
1 Basic Conditions or Tenets—
An Overview . . . . . .. . . . . . . 9
Respect . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
Boundaries . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
Readiness for Change . . . . . . . . 18
Expectations . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19
Values . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20
2 Conditions for Healing, Growth, and Change . . . . . . . 23
Confronting the Best and theWorst . . . . . . .. . . . . . 23
Confronting the Irrational . . . . . . 23
Confronting Psychic Pain: Negative and Positive . . . . . . . . . . 24
Taking a Risk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24
Action and Tough Love . . . . . . . . . 26
Revision of Early Trauma through Positive New
Experience . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27
3 The Practitioner’s Role . . . . . . . . . 31
Significance . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31
A Model . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31
Physician Know Thyself . . . . . . . . 33
Winning–Losing: The Power Struggle . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34
The Therapeutic Failure and Resolution . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35
4 Issues Relevant to Any Therapeutic Relationship . . . . . . 37
The Contract . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37
Contact . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38
Interaction and Communication . . . .47
Instructions (Essential Qualities) . . . . . . . . . . . . 56
Alternatives . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 76
Separation and Termination . . . 77
5 Conclusion . . . . . . .. . . . 81
Section II—Questions and Answers
Betrayal and Attachment: What Can Practitioners Do When a Patient Resists
Treatment that is Working? . . . . . . . . . . 89
How Should Practitioners Talk to Patients about Psychological
Problems and Processes in the Context of CM Thinking and Treatment? . . . . . . 92
How Can Practitioners Guide and/or Support Patients through Psychological
Events and Challenges? . . . . . . . 95
How Can Practitioners Recognize and Deal with a Situation that is Beyond
Their Knowledge or Capacity to Handle and Requires Assistance and Referral
to Other Health Care Providers Including Hospitalization? . . . . . . . . . . . 96
How Can Practitioners Deal Constructively With a Patient’s Distrust,
Skepticism, Disappointment, Criticism, and Anger Directed at Them? . . . . . . . . . 98
How Should Practitioners Handle the Cessation of Treatment and/or
Relationship? . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . 99
How Should Practitioners Cope with “Difficult” Patients? . . . . . . . . . 99
How Should Practitioners Handle Issues of Money and Missing
Appointments? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101
How Can Practitioners Handle Inappropriate Sexual Approaches by Patients? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101
How Should Practitioners Handle
Friendship with Patients In and Out of the Clinical Setting? . . . . . . . . . . 102
How Should Practitioners Handle
Patients Who Put Them on a Pedestal? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . 102
How Should Practitioners Deal with People Who Are Insufficient in
Specific Life Functions, Which in Themselves Will Create Further Emotional Problems? . . . . . . . .. . . . 103
How Can Practitioners Provide Nourishment to People Who Lacked it Early in Life? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107
How Should Practitioners Respond to Issues of Transference and
Counter-transference . . . . . . . . . . . . 108
How Can Practitioners Extract the
Essential or Correct from the Less
Important or Incorrect? . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109
How Can Practitioners Extract the Positive from What Seems Negative—
Native Brilliance, or a Skill Acquired? 111
Should Practitioners Use Western Counseling Techniques and
Approaches, or CM, or Both? . . . . . . . . 112
How Can Practitioners Safely Combine Lifestyle Management and CM
Diagnosis? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113
When Should Practitioners Inform Important Others, Spouse, Parents,
Relatives, and Other Therapists? . . . . . 115
How Should Practitioners Advise Patients Who Are Doing Too Many
Things, Seeing Too Many Practitioners? . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . 115
How Can Practitioners Recognize Who is at Risk? . . . . . . . . . . . . 116
Epilogue . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117
Notes . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . 118
References . . . . . . . . . . . . . 120
Index . . . . . . . . . . . . 122